Annonse

Husker du Nav-Line (28) fra Jæren som jeg startet innsamlingsaksjon for? Nav satte Line til å spa grus og vaske på et sykehjem. Hun slet på tunge tiltak med luselønn. Tobarnsmoren var langt nede og utslitt. Nå har lykken snudd: Drømmejobben fant hun helt selv.

«Du må fortelle folk at de må stå på og aldri gi opp håpet!»

Dette sier Nav-Line fra Jæren til Helsetine. Hun er glad og lettet. Etter fire år på tunge Nav-tiltak, har endelig lykken snudd! For kort tid siden fikk hun fast jobb i den nyåpnede butikken Extra leker på det lokale kjøpesenteret M44 på Bryne – og er hoppende glad. Hun fant stillingen selv på Finn og var en av de første som søkte. Jobben fikk hun fordi hun hadde gode referanser: Butikksjefen hadde hørt at hun er så flink til å jobbe!

Nav har ikke hjulpet henne og har lite å bidra med, er Lines erfaring etter fire år i det triste og nedbrytende systemet.

Skjermdump fra TV2 viser Line i lykkerus i ny jobb i lekebutikken.

Ble gruset i Nav-tiltak

Etter at TV2 filmet Line mens hun gravde grus i et grusprosjekt på Jæren for 13 000 kroner måneden i tiltakspenger, fikk hele Norge sympati for den unge tobarnsmoren med barn på 6 og 8 år.  Snille mennesker sendte bidrag til julegaver til barna hennes og hun fikk masse støtte-erklæringer.

Les TV-2 saken om Line som måtte spa grus på Jæren for Nav her.

Hele Norge raste over en arrogant kommunalsjef i Hå kommune

Selv engasjerte jeg meg i Lines sak på min blogg og responsen var enorm.

Aldri har jeg fått så mye engasjement på bloggen og så mange lesere som da jeg skrev om Line som slet i Nav-systemet. Veldig mange kjente seg igjen.

Enda flere syntes ikke en slik behandling av Line var verdig. Mange ble rasende da Tv2 viste et innslag hvor kommunalsjefen i Hå kommune uttalte seg arrogant. Line hadde på dette tidspunktet blitt tilbudt tiltaksjobb i en butikk fire mil unna på natten, et sted der toget ikke går. Kommunalsjefen ga uttrykk for at det var helt greit at småbarnsmødre reiser fra barna midt på natten for å delta i Nav-tiltak.  Dette utløste en storm av reaksjoner.

Selv la jeg ut en liten video hvor jeg sa som sant var – at jeg var sinna! Deler av denne ble til stor overraskelse vist på TV2-nyhetene. Se innslaget fra Tv2 her.

Skjermdump fra Tv2

Les Helsetines saker om Line her:

NAV-galskapen: Line blir utnyttet, det gjør meg rasende!

Slik gikk det med NAV-Line som måtte spa grus

Helt greit at en småbarnsmor jobber natta på tiltak; når toget ikke går

Hjelp NAV-Line med sertifikat og en bedre fremtid for seg og barna!

 

Vondt å høre hvor mye Line slet

Jeg hadde mye  kontakt med Line i perioden hvor hun slet som mest, og det var vondt å høre om hvordan hun hadde det. En dag var hun så sliten etter å ha bygget bruer på en fjelltopp i Navs regi at hun skrev til meg at hun ikke orket å bli filmet den dagen: Hun hadde gått mil etter mil på fjellet. TV2 ville komme hjem til henne enda en gang og følge utviklingen, men hun sa nei.

– Jeg føler meg dum, jeg blir nervøs og vet ikke hva jeg skal si, sa Line da vi snakket sammen. Jeg oppfordret henne til å prøve igjen en annen dag! Etter praten med meg, tok Line sjansen på filming med Tv2  igjen kort tid etter. Denne gangen gikk det bedre: «Jeg bare snakket uten å tenke på hva jeg sa, » fortalte Line meg på messenger.

Måten hun har stått frem på er beundringsverdig: Line er en viktig stemme i Nav-debatten – et vitne på hva mange utsettes for og hvor direkte helseskadelig det er å bli lempet fra tiltak til tiltak samtidig som man er redd for å miste pengene.

Var redd for å bli fratatt støtten

En annen ting som gikk igjen i dialogen jeg hadde med Line var hvor mye hun gruet seg til møtene med Nav. Hun var nedbrutt og følte de hadde lite å bidra med: Tidligere hadde hun opplevd både å miste støtten og få avslag på søknader om bistand til barna.

«De skal vel ta fra meg pengene ,» sa hun dystert en dag Nav-leder hadde innkalt henne til en uventet samtale:

Slik Line oppfattet det fikk hun beskjed om å komme å snakke fordi hun hadde vært på TV2, og hun måtte komme alene i møtet. Som en skjebnens ironi ringte Nav-lederen til meg  i samme minutt! Jeg hadde tatt kontakt med Lines Nav-kontor på mail for å informere om at jeg hadde startet en Spleis-aksjon for at Line skulle få førerkort: Jeg ville forsikre meg om at eventuell pengehjelp ikke ville føre til at Line mistet Nav-støtten.

Etter en kort prat, informerte jeg Nav-leder om at Line gruet seg til møtet med henne og ba henne ta hensyn. «Jeg skal ikke være sint på Line,» sa Nav-leder. Deretter begynte hun å stotre og mumlet at hun ikke kunne diskuterte en enkeltbruker med en hun ikke visste hvem var, og la raskt på røret.

Line og jeg fikk oss en god latter. «Vi klarte å skremme henne litt der,» fleipet Line. Heldigvis gikk møtet bra og hun fikk beholde Nav-pengene som såvidt holder til mat på bordet for henne og barna.

Lykken har snudd – Line får jobb og førerkort

En måneds Spleis-aksjon resulterte i at 30 snille mennesker bidro med penger. Før påske kunne jeg utbetale i overkant av 5000 kroner til Line. Noen har også valgt å støtte henne direkte. Men historien slutter ikke her. For samtidig tok Astrid Pedersen kontakt med meg. Astrid driver organisasjonen Hjerte for mennesker og er en ildsjel som i en årrekke har hjulpet vanskeligstilte mennesker: Astrid ville også  engasjere seg  i Lines sak. Takket være Astrid, har en lokal kjøreskole nå stilt opp med gratis kjøretimer, og Line starter kjøretreningen nå i vår.

Skjermdump fra TV2

– Det er fantastisk. Jeg har ikke ord, jeg er så rørt, sier Line takknemlig.

Og lykken fortsatte: Line fikk i vår også fast jobb i den nyåpnede lekebutikken Extra leker; helt uten hjelp fra Nav. Jobben fikk hun som før nevnt fordi hun er flink til å jobbe!

Skjermdump fra TV2

Les hele historien om Lines jubeldag:  TV2 var hjemme hos Line på Jæren da hun fikk beskjed om at hun fikk jobben i lekebutikken. I denne saken har  TV2 også nevnt at Helsetine startet innsamlingsaksjon for den unge tobarnsmoren. Det er veldig hyggelig! Les hele saken her.

Personlig må jeg si at det er fantastisk at en så trist historie fikk en så lykkelig slutt! Ikke bare er Line endelig ute av Nav-systemet, hun har også fått drømmejobben og får oppfylt drømmen om førerkort! Dette vil lette hverdagen med barna.

– Jeg er glad nå. De fleste kommer aldri ut av Nav-systemet, sier Line alvorlig. Hun stortrives hos Extra Leker og har fått et helt nytt liv. Nå tar hun seg en velfortjent kosestund med sønnen.

Skjermdump fra Tv2

Mange enkeltpersoner har engasjert seg i Lines sak og har ønsket å hjelpe henne både via TV2, min blogg Helsetine og direkte til Line selv. Det gleder mitt hjerte at det finnes så mange snille mennesker rundt i vårt lille land. På vegne av Line sier jeg tusen takk til alle sammen. <3

Har du en Nav-historie? Det er startet en aksjon som heter #NAVjegog . Denne hashtaggen kan du bruke på alle sosiale medier om du har en dårlig erfaring med Nav. Jo flere som engasjerer seg, jo bedre! Det er en Metoo-aksjon – for å sette fokus på hvor mange som har  det vanskelig i dette systemet.

Du kan bruke hashtaggen uten å si noe, eller fortelle noe personlig – om du vil det. Se Facebooksiden til #NAVjeg og her. 

Les også: Kjære Erna: Et destruktivt Nav ødelegger mennesker

Les også: Arbeidsledige og flyktninger må hogge trær i skogen!

Les også om Heidi og Cathrine som jeg intervjuet for Kamille for noen år siden: De fortalte om skammen ved å være avhengig av Nav som langtidssykemeldte på arbeidsavklaring.

Cathrine er sengeliggende med ME, men møter mye fordommer. Les storyen her: Alt vi ikke ser

Heidi har grått mye og er lei av å bli mistrodd: Fibromyalgi synes ikke utenpå. Les storyen her. Du kan ikke se hva som feiler Heidi

 

Annonse

Kronprinsesse Mette Marit og Kronprins Haakon ble rasende da Se og Hør skrev at Mette Marits sønn Marius Borg Høiby (21) er kjæreste med playboymodell. Men kan de kreve at Marius får være i fred, all den tid han er sønn av Kronprinsessen og lever et glamourliv i London som trendredaktør?

English? Watch video here. 

Nylig ble det kjent at Marius Borg Høiby, sønnen til kronprinsesse Marit er sammen med eks- playboymodell Juliane Snekkestad. Paret bor sammen i London.

At Se og Hør brukte nettopp ordet playboymodell, gjorde Mette Marit og Haakon rasende. Hadde det ikke holdt med supermodell eller stjernemodell? Juliane var fortvilet  over å få ryktet som klesmodell ødelagt og kronprinsparet gikk ut og forsvarte henne. De skrev at hun var en hardtarbeidende, seriøs modell og at hun ikke fortjente å bli fremstilt på skandalebladets forside på denne måten.

Faksimile fra Daily Mail

«Måten vi gjorde det på kan diskuteres, men hun var lei seg og vi ville vise vår støtte,» uttrykte en noe mutt kronprins Haakon etterpå. Les mer om Haakons forklaring og hvorfor de valgte å støtte Juliane på nrk.no

Karriere i London – skyhøy kjendis- og glamourfaktor

Siden denne feiden med Kongehuset har Marius og Juliane blitt fotografert av kjendis-magasiner og aviser i London, hvor de begge bor og jobber.  Her må de vente seg mye oppmerksomhet, i følge Se og Hør:

Begge er over 20 år og de satser begge på en internasjonal og høyt profilert karriere i motehovedstaden London, med skyhøy kjendis- og glamourfaktor. 

Faksimile fra Daily Mail

Marius var tidligere sammen med rikmannsjenta Linn Helena Nilsen (219  fra Drammen i studietiden i California  (bildene under), men forholdet tok slutt i juni 2017. Etter sigende avsluttet de som gode venner. Les om bruddet her. 

Faksimile fra googlesøk

Fikk ikke være prins Marius

Nå er det altså London som gjelder. Nylig ble det kjent at Marius har begynt i ny jobb i London – som trendredaktør i et luksus-magasin! Han er fotografert på rød løper i en jetsetfest arrangert av bladet og ble henvist til som «prince Marius.» Etter at Se og Hør skrev om dette, ble prinse-tittelen fjernet. Trolig er det Slottet som har bedt trendmagasinet Tempus Magazine om å  fjerne det.

Faksimile fra TV2 og Se og Hør

Marius søker selv offentligheten

Kronprinsesse Mette Marit har flere ganger gått ut og bedt pressen la sønnen hennes være i fred: Han ønsker ikke medieoppmerksomhet, har hun uttalt.

Jeg har stor forståelse for at Mette Marit ønsker å beskytte sønnen, men han ser ikke akkurat ut til å søke til skyggefylte områder for å være i fred. Tvertimot er han der det skjer, og må tåle oppmerksomhet, mener jeg. Samtidig har Dagbladets avslørt at Borg Høiby flere ganger har deltatt på offisielle, betalte  besøk og oppdrag for kongehuset de siste årene. Han er altså alt annet enn privatperson.

Det blir også litt rart at Mette Marit den ene dagen refser pressen og sier at Marius må få være i fred og at han neste dag fremstår som prins og redaktør i et fasjonabelt London-magasin.

«Han har selvfølgelig rett til privatliv, vi er først og fremst glad for den nye jobben hans. Det er et lite tidsskrift i England. Han som alle andre får bestemme om han vil være i offentlig søkelys eller ikke, og der har vi alle forskjellige behov,» var Kronprinsessens svar til Dagsrevyen.

I følge medie-eksperter han nå Marius selv valgt et liv i offentligheten. Man kan ikke få både i pose og sekk – fullt privatliv og samtidig alle goder som sønn av den norske Kronprinsessen, sies det.

Faksimile fra Aftenposten

Norsk presse er likevel ikke det største problemet: Nå bor Marius i London med modellkjæresten og fra utenlandsk presse kan de ikke vente samme diskresjon, hevder medie-eksperter. Både nettaviser og andre skriver fritt om affæren:  Juliane beskrives som en modell det går mange rykter om og som liker å trykke dristige bilder av seg selv på Instagram. Hun er svært populær og har mange følgere.

Faksimile fra Julianes Instagram-side

Kjæresten har ben i nesa

Juliane er kjent for friske uttalelser på Instagram, skriver det britisk nettstedet Mailonline:

«She’s also known for her feisty Instagram posts, dishing out advice to followers such as: ‘Do yourself a favor and stop f****** with half-ass people with half-ass communication and half-ass promises.»  

And on International Women’s Day, she told fans: «Don’t let them f*****s bring you down.»

Dette er vel en moderne måte å be folk om å drite i Janteloven på ..? Å være toppmodell er beintøft, bransjen er kynisk, og det hjelper nok at hun kan bite fra seg…

Hva Marius synes om disse uttalelsene vites ikke. Han uttaler seg mer forsiktig på sin Insta-side – men ser ellers ut til å kose seg  med ny kjæreste og ny glamorøs redaktørjobb. På Instagram kaller Marius seg for pirate – hvilket tyder på at han synes det er kult å fremstå litt rebelsk han også.

Jeg ønsker det unge paret masse lykke til både i offentligheten og utenfor. 🙂

«Bør Marius nå få fred, eller er det fritt frem for pressen å følge hans liv i  London?»

Marius is dating ex-Playboy model: Read more in Dailymail. 
Marius and ex-Playboy-model-girlfriend pictured together: Read more in Dailymail:

Mette Marit: Leave my son alone! Read more in thelocal.no

Crown princess protesting against article about Marius and playboy-model. Read more in Hello Magazine.

 

 

 

Annonse

This is what I learnt from the enormously popular TV-program «Good morning, Norway» yesterday. It is always cold here, and still snow, but to welcome spring you can still wear all your summer dresses with  flower pattern. Just wear tights, T-shirt and boots with the outfit – and a jacket.

I am really inspired after having watched «Good morning, Norway.» It is an extremely popular program for housewives, retired people, people with home offices all and all of us who pretend to be really busy but are actually almost out of work. In this program, they have the sweetest and cutest fashion expert! Her name is Marianne Jemtegård, and besides being a cool fashion expert, she is also pregnant with some smart stud designer she met in Paris!

She really wanted to have a child before it was too late, but her boyfriend did not want a baby. So she packed her suitcase and left him! That is so brave and so right..

Now she is blooming more than ever, not because she is finally pregnant with her cute, foreign guy, but also because she is showing us all the ways we can use our summer clothes in winter and early spring: Just wear your favourite T-shirt under the dress, and put on some stillongs or tights.  And  put on some cool boots! It is very smart, because here in my cold, small country Norway up in northern Europe we never know if it will snow, rain or be 16 degrees celsius. The weather changes in seconds!

I got inspired and wanted to celebrate spring – brrr

So, inspired by Marianne- the blonde woman right in the photo –  and Good morning Norway, I put on a T-shirt, a green dress that I really like, the tights I bought at HM in Miami because of the freeeeezing air condition that made my legs feel numb – and a jacket.

– Wear a leather jacket or a woolen jacket with the outfit, she said, and both look cool. It is still too cold for sandals in Norway, and mine look too sweet, so I put on some boots with fringes instead.

I tried the outfit in my living room and hallway, and all jackets look cool with it, I think.

«Voila! is this cool or not? We don´t have to dress so perfect, we can dress for fun and be more colourful.»

Now I am looking for more stylish tights, but I haven’t been able to find any yet. They are either too colorful or just grey or black. Send me tips if you know where I can find cool tights that match with dresses. On a cold quiz night with my friends, I wore thick, dark red pantyhoses, and was warm all night long, until one in the morning…  The red dress is a cheap dress I bought on internet years ago and the leather jacket is from Alanya.

How do you like to dress in spring? Last time I went for a walk on my favourite local beach, I skipped my pants and wore a summer dress with tights, boots, a small jacket and a scarf. Why not? 🙂

I have liked dresses since I was a child, and I still like skirts and dresses a lot. One of my female friends loves pants, and she thinks I am too obsessed with skirts and dresses, but who cares. They are comfortable and feminine.

 

And here is outfit number four! I love this old orange dress. Time to get it out of the closet! A thick leather jacket is perfect at night and the shoes are one of my favourites; although old, I dont have the heart to throw them away. The tights are light lilac and I found them when searching my wardrobe.

I was not just inspired by Mariannes ideas – I was so thrilled about them that I took photos of the TV screen and sent the images to my son and his girl friend, saying this is the way we should look this spring.

They were both in school, but they were polite enough to answer me on messenger. My son said cool, the girl also, but she was a bit sceptical about wearing T-shirts under dresses. 🙂

«Would you wear T-shirt with your favorite dress when it is cold outside, or are you scared it might ruin your outfit?»

Also read, in Norwegian: Fashion expert Marianne is pregnant with French stud.

Also read: Outfit of the day: I paid just 5 dollar for this amazing jumper

Also read: What I learnt in Florida: The American Dream does not exist, here are 6 reasons why

Also read: Who said that Norway is expensive?

Also read: Welcome to Norway! 🙂

Annonse

Liv Signe Navarsete: «We want your pussy.» It is indeed nothing to be proud of! Ten Norwegian male politician friends all deny having sent this message to their colleague. They have denied it for two years, and they all protect each other!  Mrs Navarsete feels deeply harrassed. She was on a sick leave when she received this message in her home late at night: She felt they were writing her this message to tell her she was an ass who deserved losing her job. #MeToo

You would think this could happen in kindergarten or in high school – maybe. Not in a mens ´festive weekend  in a cabin in Sweden where grown up politicians were gathered. (In Norway we call these tremendiously popular fiestas for «hyttetur».)

These were 10 Norwegian men in high positions, several mayors, leaders and a state secretary of the Center party.

But this is what happened! Liv Signe Navarsete (left in photo) who was pressured to leave  her job as a political leader of the Center party because she was leading in a way that many people disliked, got this message after midnight.

Her friend claimed to be stuck in the toilet

«We want your pussy,» it said. The message was sent from messenger, from her Facebook friend, state secretary of the party Morten Søberg, who was indeed present at the weekend trip in the cabin. But he claimed to have been in the lavatory: He said that he had left his phone on the table and was not present at the time the awkward and shameful message was sent.

Really, should we believe that? Two years later they all still deny having sent this offensive message to Liv! Ola Borten Moe, the deputy leader of  the party who was the one to get rid of Liv, says he is shocked and disappointed that all his friends deny having sent the message! Read Norwegian article in Aftenposten here. 

Really, should we believe that? He hated this woman, at least he strongly worked to get her removed from her job – and succeeded.

Will force the guilty man to come forward

Now the top, top leader of the party (general secretary we call it here)  has promised that  he will look into this matter one more time – and this time he will force the guilty man to confess.

«What if they did it together, and had a big laugh about it after 10-15 glasses of whisky and beer? Because that is what cabin weekends out of town with politicians is all about. Drinking and gossiping (and maybe working a little.) Actually they were having a «trøndersk» fiesta, and in Norway Trondheim is a city where people sometimes have a bit difficulties to behave. Other scandals have happened with Trondheim-politicians before. They are a bit like barbarians, they grew up in a local bar and have wild parties in the fields drinking home made liquor like «karsk.» 

It could be true they really liked her – or  not…

Come on, guys!! This is very, very shameful, and I am not at all impressed with you. You have leading political positions — and still you act so childish!

Worse MeToo-stories have happened, and Liv is a strong lady who will survive this stupid story. But you know what is most tragic? She read this note as if they said she was some sort of bad lady they wanted to get rid of and put down!

I am more naive and positive thinking – if someone sent me this message in the middle of the night – well, I would really think these guys were insanely in love with me because I am awesome and that they were desperate to have sex with me!

It has happened to me more than once  that horny men send me messages after midnight. But this poor lady did not take it as a compliment at all.

And it was not of course, I am just joking. :/

The men and best friends protect each other 

«Isn’t it ironic how all these men stick together and protect eachother? They are all friends, and men do not kiss and tell – not when it means you have to talk badly about your best friend. Also at work, they protect each other: They all know one of the lads drinks to much, is too intimate with female coworkers at parties and cheats on his wife and comes late in for work every second day , but if you ask them if they know something about this, they will most likely hmmmm, yrrr…. mumble something, look in another direction and walk away.

Not all of course – some good guys would be honest and tell you everything (especially if they kind of want you)  – I am just saying brotherhood and being mates also means you do not let your best friend down when he is in troble.

Have a good one!

ps; I will never join politics and try to be a politician again, that´s for sure… its just too much bullshit  and way too much alcohol and MeToo involved in it for me.

Ciao.

Also read, in Norwegian: The general secretary will force the guilty man to say he is sorry.

Also read: The scandal in the oat field: Politician refuses to apologize sex with teenage boy

Also read: What I learnt in Florida: The American Dream does not exist, here are 6 reasons why

Annonse

For ten years it has been a secret, but then a scandal internet-magazine reveals the shocking facts: A well known female political leader had sex with a teenage boy in an oat field during a politician couple´s farm-wedding. Now her colleges require she must apologize for her actions, but the lady refuses and the boy and the wedding guests are furious. «I did not do anything wrong,» she claims in the article following the photo below.

It is almost like in a movie: The older lady, a well known political leader, has secret sex with a much younger guy  in an oat field up north in Norway during a wedding where his relative – a well known politician from an opponent political party gets married. You can see part of the field in the background in the photo below, showing the bride and the groom, The Center party vice president Ola Borten Moe and his wife Anna Ceselie Brustad Moe, also Center party-politician.

Faximile from Adressa.no. Photo: Glen Musk

 After 10 years the news explodes in media. The wedding guests, the political leaders and the press have known for years, but decided to hush the story down. In fact nothing illegal happened, it was awkward, but it was voluntary sex and the boy was 17, and over the legal age.

The guy suffered psychologically

Now a scandalous conservative website decides to reveal the long hidden sex story: They talk to the guy´s family and friends who were present at the party on the farm that night, and they write the story anonymously, mentioning that the boy has suffered psycologically after the incident: His father tells his son cried after the sex in the field and his friends bullied him about it afterwards.

Trine Skei Grande, which is the name of the lady having sex with the young, innocent farm-guy, is at this time leader of the party LEFT and about to become minister of Culture. It is a very bad time for her to face this old sex scandal story, and the magazine editor who supports the conservative party FrP, knows that.

The boy and his family refuse to do an interwiew with the internet magazine, they do not want any attention. Still the conservative editor continues writing more details every day and make a big pressure on Trine to make her stand forward.

In Norway we are not used to press printing private storys like this – and for a long time the decent press is reluctant, they will not write about it. After some time, Trine feels so pressured that she decides to speak to Aftenposten, which is one of Norways biggest and most respected newspapers.

Here, she does not tell the details, but simply says she is a common girl who grew up in the countryside, went to parties like everybody else and that she might have done some stupid things in her life – but she is not an abuser. There is a lot of gossip around, and some of it says that she practically raped a guy with Downs syndrom. She wants to say this is not true.

«This comment that she is not an abuser, she might have regretted ever since.»

The guy feels betrayed

Because now the guy feels that she is blaming HIM for the act! They had an agreement not to talk about it, and he feels betrayed. The editor of the scandalous web magazine confronts him with rumours saying that Trine and politicians working for her has said he is a simple guy from the countryside not to be trusted. This makes him angry. In a phone call with Trine, he asks Trine what her story is if she is asked what happened. According to the guy her answer is that they went for a walk and he took her behind a house and jumped on her.

This is not how the guy remembers this night at all. He is shocked. When VG, one of Norways biggest controversial newspapers, calls him, he decides to talk: He says that he wishes Trine luck with her position as minister of Culture, but now he feels like an abuser and it is not true! He tells VG what happened was they went for a walk on the field, laid down and had voluntary sex. He says the prime minister can call him and get the facts is she wants.

 

Most of the people are now all on the guy´s side; they feel sorry for him and want Trine to apologize to him and say that she is responsible for the act – she was 38 at the time, the guy only 17! 

She has to feel the shame and be punished for it – just like men had to do

All of a sudden, Trine is the badass – people say she deliberately lied to protect herself and this poor guy is abused even though he said is was voluntary. With all the MeToo-stories where men were hunted down – now it´s about time a woman has to feel the shame!  Witnessing guests at the wedding claim SHE was the active part – not him.

Trine and her boss left in the photo, the prime minister Erna Solberg – refuse to apologize, they will not talk about the incident anymore. This makes everything worse and the story escalates. The boy, who earlier had no disagreement with Trine and his friend both write a letter to the prime minister telling that they feel badly treated: They feel the guy has been dishonored for false reasons.

The groom supports his relative, the young boy

After two months the groom who is Trines political opponent, Borten Moe, who nobody mentioned or remembered for years, decides to talk: He writes on Facebook – just in the same minute minister Trine is attending a highly important conference with her party –  that he is furious with Trines behaviour. He says his relative, the young guy of 17 who now turned 26, is to be trusted, and that it is terrible that Trine tries to blame him for the sex. He is also furious about – what he has heard in the political corridors – that Trine and her political advisers have lied about the guy, telling he is a weak and underintelligent farm guy who is out of work and was bullied in school. This he claims they have done to protect Trines political career and to prove nothing happened in the field that night, ten years ago. Trine and her colleagues on the other hand claim they wanted to protect the boy!

The guy that was described as a loser out of work, apparently with Downs Syndrome or likewise, dependent of an personal assistant,  is today an engineer and has a leading position in a good company.

This is 10 years later – and he can of course have had weaknesses as a teenager. Still, this does not seem like a guy that is simple and has to be protected from himself. On the other hand, we dont know if Trine said these things about him – she is not at all the type to put other people down, she is maybe a bit naive and cowardly, but not at all manipulative or evil. The guy is more likely sat up by other more speculative people.

Woman working for a child care office makes a complaint

The story is not over: A wedding guest, an older conservative spinster, Gro Spieler, working for a child care office claims to be deeply offended, and she writes a complaint to the prime minister saying that she and Trine has to apologize for their bad behaviour, and for treating this case so poorly. It appears that five years ago she also wrote a letter to Trine demanding her to apologize to the whole wedding party, but Trine refused  – she did not feel she had done anything wrong.

«And maybe she is not to blame? Actually she is a kind woman suffering  from diabetes and severe asthma, is highly overweight, lives alone and deserves some sex. Also, it is more likely that the guy was horny and came on to her rather that she abused him openly.»

This weekend, minister of Culture, Trine, was elected again as a leader for her party LEFT, and she begged her party to treat the sex scandal as a private story. But now her colleague Abid Raja (in photo over) stands forward, saying Trines story now has become such a big burden for the whole party that she has to tell all the sex details to the press so they can go on with doing politics.

What details does he want? She and the boy apparently do not agreee about what happened in the field 10 years ago and who seduced – or jumped on –  who.

How is this scandalous, shameful  story going to end? Does Trine have to end her career as a minister and political leader for people and political opponents to calm down – or does she simply just have to say:

«I am sorry, I am to blame for this whole mess and the guy is no abuser; just a young lad I should have been wise enough to reject late at night in that wedding party where we both drank too much alcohol.»

What do you suggest?

 

Afterword: After a long discussion with my skilled FB-friends it turns out corn field is not the right expression here as it is most likely oat they are growing in this now so well known field.

«Havren, den har bjeller på,» an experienced lawyer, reminds me. In Norwegian havre means oat and in the song they say the oat wear «bells», which can have more than one meaning.

This is a popular  old folk song in Norway and Denmark. Enjoy it on YouTube here.

Be careful with your actions in the fields, though, there might be people watching – and if you get a new position or something, they might not act like your friends anymore… Just saying. Ciao. 🙂

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Annonse

Please check carefully before you buy Groupon Deals when visiting a foreign country: The deal might not work! The hop on and off bus offer with Groupon was really cheap, but the coupon never popped up. Guess what: I had to leave the bus – with the ticket man….

I cant believe I have such bad luck again. A few days ago I had to leave a famous nightclub because the guard did not like my ID. Now I am in a hop on and off bus with Big Bus in Miami and look forward to see the whole city in a few hours. But no…        

The first bus accepts my printout of the Groupon deal, but I have to change bus downtown, and there a ticket man appears and want to check my ticket. He shakes his head, and says this printout is not valid. He has to see the coupon. I also want to see the coupon, but it was nowhere to be found and the hostel kindly enough printed out the deal for me that I just bough. It was they who recommended me to buy a Groupon deal as it would be so much cheaper – and it was. I paid 29.90 dollars instead of 45 dollars.

«Just that the ticket is useless.»

(God, why do I always listen to these advices without checking for myself if it is wise or not.)

 

Please leave the bus – now!

The ticket man says the bus is about to leave and I have to get out. I am quite upset and asks him if he wants me to stand stranded in the street, and he says of course not madam, I will leave the bus with you.

There we stand in the street, me and this young stud with so strict rules to follow. We both look for the coupon – we try my IPhone first and even download the Groupon app twice – then we do the same on his phone – but the coupon does not exist!

«I can prove that I have bought and payed for the Bus deal, but I can still not go on my planned bus tour.»

He says last week another person had the same problem: «Groupon is cheap, but it is difficult,» he says. He thinks that maybe the Norwegian and American Groupon system do not work together properly.

He threw me out – now he wants to hang out???

He really wants me to enjoy the bus tour this day, and offers me a new lowcost ticket for 25 dollars. Normally it costs 45 and you can use it for two days. He also gives me his WhatsApp number on a written piece of paper with a heart on it. «We can probably hang out together,» he says.

What?? This guy brutally threw me out of the bus – now he wants to take me on a date?? I really have problems to understand The American Life. I say thanks, but I leave soon and dont know if I can make it,  I don´t have so much time left! Actually when a guy asks me to hang out, I never know if he means we are going on a walk together in a park, or if he simply just wants sex, and I am too embarrassed to ask.

Good times in Wynwood

Well, anyways –  It is like 100 degrees where we are standing, and I am burning up. Eventually a bus arrives and he pushes me in front of the big queue. «You shouldn’t be back there, you have waited long enough,» he says – adding «dont forget to add me on WhatsApp.» Then he is gone, and I am on my own. I am dying of thirst, and leaves the bus at the next stop, which is the famous Wynwood art district. The driver says this is a good place to stop for a beer, and I nod and say out loudly: OH YESSS!

Actually I feel warm and tired and when I at last feel like moving  from my table in the Wynwood restaurant after finishing two enormously expensive and extremely small tapas dishes and two beers, it is already late – and I can´t find the bus stop. I normally struggle with direction and this time I am completely lost. Also there are no Big Bus signs.

Heyyy, I am lost!

«I am lost! Where do I jump on,» I ask the ticket man on WhatsApp. He quickly gives me the information I need and I am lucky to find the bus stop at last. Time is out and the bus leaves me in the city downtown. I have to go back to Miami South Beach with the local bus, which takes an hour…

Cool times with my roommate in Wynwood on next day bus drive

Next day my nice roommate-cutie Kim from Brazil wants to go on the bus ride, and when he asks me if I will join him I say yes. This time I know my way around and most luckily of all, I now ride with a valid ticket. Before we go I email Groupon and say I want the money back from the worthless deal. Kim and I go back to Wynwood and take photos of all the vivid and funny artistic walls.

It starts raining heavily and we hide inside a cafeteria and have a beer. We want to stop also in Little Havana, but agree there is not much to do there besides having a Mojito -and they also serve delicious Mojitos in our hostel. Also, I already spent a whole night in Little Havana dancing salsa with a girl I met from Brazil last week in another hostel – Flavia.

Kim and I decide to take the bus back to South Beach, end up in North Beach and have to sit in the bus all the way back. It seems we both suffer from lack of direction-disease.

A false Groupon turned out to be a good deal

This has been such a nice day. Also the tour guide made me laugh several times, he was so funny, telling lies about how he used to live in these big expensive houses that we were passing –  with his ex-wife Shakira. Several times he asked us to bend our heads not to get the branches from the trees in our heads, that was also a bit funny, lol. It was heavy wind on the top floor, and we also were asked to hold on to hats, babies, partners and toupees! During the day I almost forgot that I paid double prize for the trip, both from Groupon and from Big Bus directly.

After a few days, I luckily get at notice from Groupon that I can spend the money on another deal or they can give me my money back. I choose the last. By all luck they return the money.

Now I want to message the ticket man and thank for his help and for giving me a good prize. I  say sorry there was no time left to hang out together as he suggested we  could probably do. «Did you really want that?» I ask, I am a bit slow sometimes to understand what a guy means. Sure, he thinks we could have a good time! He tells me he is originally from New York and worked for Big Bus in Miami for a year now.

Oh well, shoot – but time ran out and I got my nice day with Kim, who is now in marvellous San Francisco having a ball while I am at home in Norway recovering from a cold.

Groupon really let me down in Miami , but then a lot of other nice things happened, so thank you Groupon.

Will be more careful using you next time, though..;)

Do you use Groupon – and what are your impressions? Good or bad??

Read about all my good times and disasters in Miami, Florida:

I was denied access to a nightclub in Miami &#8211; read my 3 warnings: What not to do

Pool-drama: A young man is thrown out after harrassing other people for a week

How I survived sleeping in a bunkbed in a small room with 5 guys for a week

What I learnt in Florida: The American Dream does not exist, here are 6 reasons why

Why I turned down a luxurious stay at Hilton &#8211; 3 good reasons

Outfit of the day: I paid just 5 dollar for this amazing jumper

These are the 3 hostels I lived in during my stay in Miami South Beach:

The hostel in South Beach

Freehand Miami

Rock hostel

These are the 2 schools I attended during my stay:

South Beach Languages

Spanish Hangout